Morra Aarons-Mele | The Anxious Achiever

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The Quest for Emotional Intelligence in the Workplace

This article was originally from Psychology Today and is excerpted below. See the full article here.

Toxic workplaces are a leading cause of mental health challenges.

Anxiety is another overwhelming emotion that plagues us all to some degree. While some seek the thrill of a roller coaster ride to channel their fears, others avoid such situations at all costs. On the anxiety spectrum two groups emerge: the overachievers and the underachievers. The overachievers attempt to hide their imposter syndrome by going the extra mile or, according to Morra Aarons-Mele, author of The Anxious Achiever and host of the leadership podcast of the same name, overachievers often go the extra marathon to ensure all their angst-riddled ducks are in a row. Underachievers suffer equally, dodging the weight of responsibility by avoiding anxiety-inducing tasks. They are, nonetheless, just as anxious, expressing it in a different form.

So what are we to do? It appears avoidance and, its opposite, overworking does not help us sustainably achieve our goal of calm. Social media adds to the conundrum as, in the words of I, Human author Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, it places our digital narcissism front and center, yielding a never-ending spiral of envy, fear, depression, and anxiety. Who hasn’t rolled their eyes at a pompous LinkedIn post by someone boasting of their latest work achievement?